Let’s talk about silhouette. Are all of your garments unfitted, poofy, wrinkled? If so, you are presenting an amorphous silhouette and communicating that you’re not really there for yourself. If I see someone whose clothing communicates a kind of boundarilessness, a lack of self-awareness, I hesitate to approach them for anything. I certainly don’t expect them to be a competent leader. That may be an unfair assumption but as you know if you’ve been reading this blog for any length of time, attire doesn’t work on a rational level: it communicates viscerally and instantly.
Let at least one of your main garments (pants, skirt, top, choose one) be fitted and structured. You should not look like a walking display of floppy fabric. No matter what your size and shape, not fitting any of your garments to you body communicates a disconnection between self and body. Even a belt can do wonders to pull yourself together.
Is your hair floppy and indistinct, flying around in tufts and layers? That’s charming on a 4-year old with bed head but less appealing on an adult. There are thousands of hair products on the market; learn to make a few work for you. The architecture of a good hair cut conveys self-posesssion — it’s not enough to wash and run if the rest of your style is unstructured bordering on unkempt.
Tuck something in, take it to the tailors, put a belt on it, smooth it down, button it up, put a jacket over it, take up the dragging hem, know your form from all angles and fit it with love, pride and self-acceptance.
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